What Will Be Revealed in Time?

Introducing Lynn around has brought on a lot of conversations about our family size from those that don't know us but see or hear that we have a newborn. It's usual.

In fact, on one occasion, a young woman named Megan, asked how many older brothers she had? This was the first time that form of the question has arisen.

Now for me, whenever someone asks about our family size or our number of children or number of boys we have, I always answer that we have 4 children or 3 boys or that Lynn has 3 brothers. But my immediate next thought on my mind,that I do not share, is always something about Andrew. Just a quick mental pause where I remember him and think, "and you don't know about Andrew and won't."

We got Lynn's social security card in the mail this week. I commented that once again we would still be claiming 4 children on our taxes this year. Andrew was claimed the last 2 tax years since he was born in 2010 right at the end of the year and then died in 2011. Lynn arrived this year, in 2012. How odd in a way.

Mark immediately commented, "I wish it were 5."

"Me too," was my response and Mark was in a dampened mood the rest of the day.

I wonder at times what it would be like if he were still here. He'd be walking around and running after his bigger brothers. But what would he be like. He was always such a happy boy who loved to laugh. I think he was destined to be a joker since he seemed to love getting me with "the fountain" whenever I changed his diaper and then would look at me and giggle. Little pill. But what else would there be.

He would also be close to being caught up developmentally at this point in his life. I wonder how delayed he would have been in different areas and how that would have been like.

I was talking with one of my dear friends this week about our children and how different they all are. He commented on how Lynn's personality will eventually start showing itself. "All will be revealed in time." He kept saying. This is true. So far I know she is very easy going and seems to be a happy  girl. She's very much mommy's girl so far but she is quite her daddy as well. But what more to come, is yet to be seen.

Yes, all will be revealed in time my dear friend.